Tag: ace discourse

averylargecat:

allo-dyke-privilege:

slavz:

I,

Like what do these people think sexual attraction is?? What is the definition?? Can someone describe it to me??? Or does it have no actual concrete definition and is something anybody can make claims about despite there literally being no definition at all????

if it had a definition then some people would, because of that definition, NOT be able to ID as asexual and that’s EXCLUSION 

Source: traggotry

saladsaladnovski:

saladsaladnovski:

cishets have tricked a very large amount of people on this site into thinking it’s okay for them to be homophobic

me: homophobia is bad
this scholar: hm sounds aphobic :/

I love how the post didn’t even say anything about aces but this person saw the word “homophobia” and jumped to their own defense lmaoooo

When did asexuals start being associated with the LGBT community? Like when did that connection appear in some people’s minds?

jennyslateswife:

Well, aces didn’t begin to form their own communities until 1997 and I think minor conversations around it started from there but didn’t really gain traction until around 2003 when David Jay got Wesleyan to change their LGBT acronym to
LGBTTQQPF*GIBDSM (I censored this, so, you can guess where the A is). Around then, it was still understand by p much EVERYONE To mean “ally” but that’s when it started changing.

It was only in 2015 when more mainstream organizations and not just school campuses started to consider the A to be for Ace and that as ONLY after aces started throwing PR tantrums that threatened their funding and images.

Most groups do not have ace-specific resources. Most groups still don’t use the A at all. Most groups that still use the A use it to mean ally or alliance.

But, basically, asexuality only started being associated with the LGBT community when we started gaining rights and positive feedback. When it became cool and trendy. Post-Glee and everyone being like “Well, I think Istill hate the gays but Kurt Hummel wasn’t so bad and taught me basic human empathy because I’ve never seen a gay before teehee.”

They’re glomming onto us because they think it’s safe to be us.

Which is going to backfire.

gaygothur:

gaygothur:

If you want people to stop debating your place within the LGBT community every pride month….. then stop bringing back that “don’t kiss at pride” bullshit once a year cuz without that most of us wouldn’t give a shit about y’all and would leave you alone

The “Dont kiss people at pride” crap is literally the only reason ace discourse exists like nobody cared or questioned y’all before that

macchiatogf:

are we really just going to pretend that comments such as these from ace inclusionists don’t play into age-old (dangerous) stereotypes that paint lgbt people as lecherous predatory freaks who are a danger to children? is that what we’re doing now? acting like this isn’t repackaged vintage homophobia? okay

Gotta love how whenever ace people are talking about “gross” pda at pride they have to refer to it as “sucking face” or “dry humping” when really they’re just referring to kissing, hugging and maybe like dancing I guess. It’s a great way for them to simultaneously demonize gay people while deluding kids/people who’ve never been to pride before into believing that pride is some depraved public sex orgy when in reality it doesn’t get much sexier than a goddamn disney film lol

thotsune:

It’s the homophobia

hot take: ace / demi people are not discriminated against for their actual sexuality, but for the labels they use. If you say “i dont wanna fuck someone until i know them” nobody will care. but if you say “im demiheterosexual and aroflexibleromantic” people are gonna look at you weird but only because of the overly descriptive labels. i can choose not to say im a lesbian but ill still be attracted to girls and oppressed for that.

traggotry:

also with those labels its like ur actively trying to be read as lgbt so people do other u but yeah what u said does seem to make sense