remember when the dude who coined the term asexuality said he wanted ace people to have a slur like faggot so they could reclaim it. and remember how faggots original meaning was a bundle of sticks used to light a fire. and remember how gay people used to be burned at the stake. and remember how being gay is still punishable by death in 12 countries and illegal in 72.
Let ace people be uncomfortable with pda, especially sexual pda. You can’t FORCE us to be comfortable seeing people exchange saliva. If someone’s not okay with that, then that’s their right!
You don’t have to be comfortable with any pda but there is no okay reason for someone to specifically talk about gay pda and call it disgusting, as if that isn’t what our oppressors do to us constantly. That’s homophobia, babe.
honestly i feel the same way, especially since i did get kicked out of a trans group on fb that was keeping me alive just cause i called bull on sapiosexuality three years ago, and i know several people whove gotten chased out of irl lgbt groups for literally these petty reasons. inclusion is harmful for many reasons and thats been stated countless times, but no one wants to think critically about what it means to have a community built on protection from a specific form of oppression. its not even funny at this point, its literally terrifying how easy it is for people to ignore our history because theyre fixated on words instead of concepts. exclusion at first glance sounds bad, but that’s just it. it’s a misnomer since the only people we’re “excluding” are those who hurt us, which is the point of the community. it’s necessary, and i don’t even disclose in public lgbt groups that im trans anymore and i dont mention how im gay unless i 100% know its safe. i feel threatened around my own people bc they dont know what necessary boundaries are
the ace community consistently overlooks the oversexualisation of teenage relationships in media and calls it aphobia when in reality it’s gross ass adults projecting on to teens. if you’re young and don’t want sex it doesn’t mean you’re ace or broken, it’s perfectly natural and media is not a perfect representation of real life.
while we’re at it, demisexuality is literally the funniest thing. oh you’re not into one night stands or casual sex? you’re LGBTQIAPD+ babes! feel free to march in pride and call yourself q*eer!
Two women monogamously married will always be more radical, more beautiful, more important than one person who doesn’t have sex, one straight dude that wants his girlfriend to peg him, or a straight woman with two boyfriends.
This post seems to be acephobic but go off I guess.
Procrastination Station 