How does aphobia affect cisgender, heteroromantic ace men and cisgender, heterosexual aro men? Men are allowed to indulge in as little or as much sex and romance as they want. What issues specifically affect them at the same rate it does cishet aro/ace women?
How does aphobia affect married cishet aces?
How does aphobia affect sex positive cishet aces and aros?
How does aphobia affect aros on a systematic level at all? What discrimination do aro folk face? Corrective rape and HSDD aren’t relevant to aros at all, what systematic oppression do they face?
Does aphobia also affect women who chose to remain single but aren’t aro? Does aphobia affect men who are afraid to emotionally commit to a relationship? Does aphobia affect celibate folk who are waiting til marriage? Does aphobia affect all single folk? Does aphobia affect sex repulsed non-aces? If not, why not? If so, then isn’t it not focused on aro/ace people but rather on people who have “non-normative” relationships with sex and romance, regardless of sexual/romantic attraction levels? How is that LGBT?
How is aphobia different than the rape culture addressed by feminism? What is the difference in goals? What is the difference in structures upholding misogyny and aphobia?
asexuality is not inherently bad. the push of asexuality onto children and the movement of cishet inclusion is harmful, but that does not mean being asexual is bad.
your identity is separate from any misunderstanding of development and oppression dynamics.
asexuality is not a bad thing. it is not gross, it is not harmful, and to treat it that way is simply unacceptable.
the exclusionist movement is not about hating ace people. it is about lgbt people being safe from cishets. it is not about demonizing, devaluing, and denying the existence of asexual people. if you are an exclusionist because you hate ace people, you are on the wrong side and we will not tolerate your behavior.
being straight is not determined by how you experience your attraction. it’s determined by who you experience attraction to.
that’s why het aces are still straight, even though they’re not heterosexual. because even if they don’t experience sexual attraction, their attraction is still solely to the opposite gender, which is the definition of being straight
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